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Carsten’s Birth Story
January 31, 2011

Weight: 8lb 1oz
Height: 21 inches

The women in my family have a history of going overdue so throughout my entire pregnancy I had focused on 2/1 and told myself and prayed that he would come before then. I can't believe it actually happened!

I was originally given a due date of 1/21. One ultrasound gave the birth date as 1/28 but my midwives didn't change the due date. But when I went in on Wednesday, 1/26, we asked the midwife to change it to 1/28 so that I could go longer past my due date without risking out to the OB’s (FL state law). The midwife agreed that changing it to the ultrasound date made more sense, and that it was usually plus or minus 3 days in accuracy. That part turned out to be correct for me at least!

 

 

Starting at 37 or 38 weeks and at the advice of our health care providers, I had started doing various natural methods to prepare my body for labor. I drank 4 cups Red Raspberry Leaf tea every day, walked, had sex, and took borage oil (a stronger version of Evening Primrose Oil). My chiropractor did some adjustments on 1/26 that he said might help me go into labor. I don’t know if any of this stuff actually helped but it certainly helped our peace of mind to know we were doing what we could. At both my last two appointments I was 1 cm and the baby had moved from 0 station up to -2 station. I was so bummed and thought I would end up being induced since I personally did not feel comfortable going into the 43rd week and waiting it out. On Saturday, we walked a lot - hours and miles. On Sunday, we did our normal routine of church and grocery store, and made sure to get more walking in.

At 1:30am on January 31st I woke up feeling funny and thought I had to go to the bathroom. I went into the bathroom and my water broke all over the bathroom floor as soon as I got in there. I immediately called out Rob’s name and he bounded out of bed. There was no denying that it was my water. We discussed heading to the hospital but I wanted to wait a little longer until contractions came and became stronger. I had a huge rush of adrenaline and took a shower, cleaned, drank some red raspberry leaf tea, and ate leftovers. At 2:30am, I decided I should lie down and try to sleep since I might not be getting any for a while. Rob was too excited to lie down and stayed up in the living room. Sleeping didn't work; contractions began coming about 6 minutes apart and I had to get up to use the toilet after each one. That was also how it was with for false labor for me so I was nervous I wasn't having effective contractions. Around 3:30am, I decided we should go to Wal-Mart to get some pads and also get some walking in to get contractions going. It worked and contractions began to be about 2-4 minutes apart. Around 4:30am, I wanted to go to a diner by us because I knew I wouldn't be able to eat much in the hospital. Finally at 5:30am as we finished our meal I decided we could go to the hospital. I was definitely having regular, strong contractions and being a first time mom I didn't realize how much worse they would get!

We got to the hospital at 6am. I could not have had a better experience. The triage nurse was so encouraging and said she was so proud of how I was taking the contractions and that I would put her other triage patient to shame (who ended up not even being in labor). She said some women come in 5-6 times just hoping that the nurses/doctors/midwives will finally agree to just get the baby out by any means possible because they are so miserable being pregnant! I also had an internal exam at this point but was still only 1cm but 100% effaced/0 station.

At 8am we were moved into our birthing suite. The nurse, Kelly, was fantastic! She put a saline lock in my forearm and monitored me for 30 minutes at 9am. I could move around as I wished while being monitored. The midwife, Simone, decided to only monitor every 2 hours against hospital policy of every hour and said I should move and do whatever I wanted. The contractions started getting really tough! I thought for sure I would be done with labor soon. I did not realize how truly bad the pain would get! Later one of the other midwives told me that having your water break at 1cm sets you up for a more painful labor and mine was definitely intense. Rob and I tried different techniques during this time like the shower, Jacuzzi, etc., and I was still appreciating his words of encouragement. At 11am, Simone checked again and I was only 3cm. I was so bummed as contractions were intense. She asked to strip my membranes and I consented. Before she left, Rob asked her: "So should we just call you when she feels the urge to push?" Simone responded: "Well, that will be a long while yet". Funnily enough, that is exactly what we did end up doing!

I didn't know how to cope after the exam. Finally, I realized that sitting on the toilet and getting up into a half squat and swaying during the peak of contractions allowed me to breathe through them instead of writhing in agony on the bed. I could NOT be on the bed at this point. I also asked Rob to leave me alone in the bathroom because even his encouraging eyes made me tensed and self conscious. Sometime around 11:30am Kelly brought the external monitor into the bathroom to hook it up there. There was no way I could be hooked up anywhere else and I had already refused her request to come back into the room so she could monitor! Since I kept sitting and standing up, she ended up standing with her hand to my belly for I'm not sure how long monitoring the baby’s heart rate. She encouraged me through a few contractions while she was there too. After monitoring, she left.

Sometime later I began to feel the urge to push or bear down. I didn't tell anyone this even though I was doing some little pushes. I asked Rob to come into the bathroom to do counter pressure to deal with my back labor during contractions. In my opinion, my back labor was no worse than the regular contractions before back labor came on. They were both equally intense, just different pains – but that might be because my water broke so early. And I actually liked that the counter pressure from Rob provided some relief, whereas there was no relief on my abdomen! I guess around 1:30pm Rob figured out I was bearing down or maybe I told him and Kelly came in to check on me. He told her I was feeling the urge to push and she went to talk to Simone. I figure that I must have been in transition at this point. I could not breathe through contractions and began acting a little crazy, Kelly tried to get me on all fours to help get the baby to turn from posterior but I ended up running back to the bathroom in the middle of a contraction to do my toilet sitting/squatting and swaying routine. When I did this the second time (I really wanted to give turning the baby a try and I had no idea how long I'd be in labor if he was in a malposition), Simone and another nurse had come in. Simone began to coach my breathing and the other nurse was a huge cheerleader that I was doing this all natural.

Simone checked me and said I was 8 cm and she thought the baby was turning. I was so pumped and I think both Rob and I felt renewed energy! She still advised me to breathe through contractions and not push. I got back on the toilet while the other nurse held a monitor to my belly and Rob applied counter pressure while I attempted to breathe through contractions. I could not do it! I knew before every contraction I would push some at the peak because it provided a huge relief to me.

At exactly 2:30pm, Simone asked to check me again - I think because I was pushing so much in contractions and kept saying "I can't help it, I have to push!” I was 10cms and the baby was at +1. I knew that I could gather my strength and make it. I lied down on my left side and began to push with each contraction while Simone and various nurses set up the rest of the area. Rob continued to apply counter pressure. When Simone asked me to turn on my back, I asked to recline the bed at more of a downward angle which they did. I then pushed through three contractions, a total of 5 pushes is what Simone told me. I held my own legs up, and curled into a C and pushed with all my might! Simone helped me to focus on pushing effectively.

Carsten was born at 2:51pm, 8lbs1oz and 21in, after a completely natural, unmedicated labor and he was sunny side up! Posterior does not mean you will be pushing forever and I can't imagine if they had tried to manually turn him! The cord was lying draped across his neck and I wonder if it would have wrapped around it if he had turned. I suffered two very minor one-stitch tears. I felt so great after having him and I am so proud of myself because it really was for me the hardest thing I've ever done. No one once mentioned medication for pain relief to me though. I credit my nurses, midwife, and Rob with helping me make it through 100% natural!

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